This is a great post and really offers a focus for what matters. We all need to remember that no matter what has happened in our lives, a wedding is a time to be joyful. Put past relationships and mistakes behind us and move forward mindfully and positively.
This is a beautiful way to show your love and the binding of yourselves to each other on your wedding day.
Handfasting was an old way of showing the commitment that two people had to each other. They were literally bound together until the formalities of marriage could be conducted.
The materials used today are as beautiful and varied as you like. From wedding ceremony themed colours to simple cords, even football scarves or a meaningful piece of fabric.
I use silk ribbons or cords decorated with meaningful charms such as, the tree of life or a Celtic knot, symbols of love and commitment. Your binding in love can be any colour you want, or I can advise you on symbolic colouring.
This is an important step forward for the wedding industry. The issues are that there is too many rules and these have become muddled. People are unsure about how they can get married, where and when.
Much has moved on since the days of the civil partnership. Some in government are concerned for the fragmentation of family life and the increase of single parents. The issues are wider. Child poverty and the costs of benefits and tax credits. The growing issue of wedding debt.
As a celebrant I can legally marry you in Scotland if I apply for the paperwork but not in England. As I live on the borders of Cumbria and Dumfries and Galloway it becomes ridiculous. No wonder brides and grooms are confused !
A celebrant cannot legally marry you in England but can in Scotland !
So it’s long overdue. Why shouldn’t you be able to marry in your own home. It’s a common occurance to marry in one’s garden in Australia or America. A celebrant in England cannot perform the legal contract which means you must complete this at a registry office.
I’m getting married for the second time. Do I have to say the same words ?
There is currently a trial of a joint ceremony of legal registrar and celebrant ongoing. This offers the flexibility of venue but seems cumbersome. However , it would help those who feel torn – that the ‘real wedding ‘ is the registry or the ceremony. It’s all a bit complicated. As a result people limit their wedding options and commit to a registry office wedding. The same words for everyone. Literally a tick box of choices for phrases that will change your life forever. It’s just not good enough. Especially if you are a second time around couple. Having to repeat the same words and the same promises that you did when your marriage has failed is an unnecessary blight on your special day.
A beautiful wedding is about words and commitment not sweet carts, swanky venues and table favours
Until the law changes, choice is limited with a registry office wedding. So think about a celebrant led wedding. It’s the only sensible choice. Push past the notion of ‘real wedding’ and have a statutory session in a registry office. Three sentences and you are done! Then have your wedding whenever and wherever you like! It’s amazing, it’s liberating and can be a lot cheaper too.
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The ring is a circle of precious metal. The metal has varied over the years and there are definite trends. I considered the heavy dark metals for my second marriage as I wanted to have something different. However, when I looked into it I found that the use of gold was a tradition to show the brightness and represent the rising of the sun. So I fell back in love with the idea of a traditional gold ring.
The wedding ring is a symbolic and traditional representation used to signal the unending commitment of love.
I often smile when I look at it. It is a sunny 18ct gold. A little softer than 9ct but brighter. It is a plain band of gold but symbolises so much. When you are buying your rings, remember you have many choices. The metal, the design, the embellishments such as a diamond. But the most important thing about sporting a ring that states love never ending is that you mean it.
The best way to show your love is through your ceremony. In making your vows, your promises and wedding day commitment in front of your witnesses you are declaring your intentions.
As an experienced wedding celebrant I will guide you, help you to choose the words that say exactly what you are feeling. They are important as like your wedding ring they will last a lifetime.